If a man's work is from sun to sun, but a mother's work is never done, then a working mother has no chance. Though all moms could use a break from their activities for a little "mom-me time," there is little doubt that those who work outside the home have smaller windows of opportunity to do something for themselves.
In an interesting article in The Washington Post, a working mom took a hard look at her life to see exactly where her time goes. After seeing that she didn't have any for herself, she turned to Rachel Connelly, a labor economist at Bowdoin College to determine why. Connelly explained:
The revolutionary change of women entering the work force — 47 percent of mothers of school-age children worked in 1975, compared with 71 percent in 2007, according to federal statistics — coincided, she said, with intensified expectations of what it takes to be a good parent, particularly in middle-class families. But there are still only 24 hours in a day. To make it all fit, mothers slacked off on housework and gave up their personal leisure to spend their limited free time with their kids.
“My mother was home all day, so on the weekend, what did she want to do? Get away from us as fast as she possibly could and take my father with her. They went out every Saturday night. But now, mothers are employed. We see it as essential that we spend time with our kids. We don’t want to be away from them. On the other hand, we’re never away from them.”
Do you give up any personal time you may have to spend it with your kids, or do you find time to carve out some time for yourself?
The ability to multi-task is definitely key to maintaining my status as a Queen Bee. Throughout my day at work, I manage to fulfill my job responsibilities, while:
- Keeping updated on the world by listening to NPR on my computer, thereby insuring that I am able to speak intelligently about current events;
- Keep track of my 3 email accounts - so I don't miss any great gossip, or last minute meetings, or long lost friends;
- Blog - which helps clear the cobwebs and get thoughts somewhere other than the cramped space in my head;
- Telephone calls and texting - to manage my family's affairs and keep in touch with those unfettered by cubicles
- Browsing the internet - this is how I used to shop, but is also how I schedule my sessions at Dream Dinners, keep our accounts current (virtually all our bills are paid electronically), and find out about up and coming trends.
Some environments are more suited for multi-tasking than others. For instance, Fellow Queen Bees, when you have small children, it is much more difficult to do ANY and EVERYTHING while you are also supposed to be paying attention to them. Children and their bones can be very unforgiving. Husbands are also notoriously opinionated about how you spend your time while with them...that is, when they are not busy themselves...then it really doesn't matter what you're doing as long as you aren't bothering them.
Furthermore Queen Bees, some tasks are better left for home. Just today I had to call someone in the office for printing emails from her daughters which showed them scantily clad in bikinis remarking on the size of each other's "boobs" and whether they were proportional to the size of their brains. I politely asked her to refrain from printing that sort of thing at work...on a shared printer no less...Based on the pallor of her face as she left my office, I am sure it won't be a problem in the future. Last, but not least, internet firewalls at work have often prevented me from clearing certain tasks off my "to-do" list. Some of these tasks have to be stopped all together because I can't do them at work, and they require too much attention to do at home. Sometimes, knowing when to say "no" is a Super power unto itself...
OKAY, I went to this restaurant in DC, Busboys and Poets, and they served this delectable bread pudding that was made with white chocolate and banana bread, two of my most favorite things.
I found a recipe for it, and I made it in the slow cooker last night, and it was heaven! I did some substitutions to make it a little more healthy, but in general, this is a sinful treat.
What I did:
1/4 cup butter
1/2 cup of applesauce
3 cups organic evaporated cane juice or splenda
6 pureed bananas
1 (16 ounce) container non-fat sour cream
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon salt
3 teaspoons baking soda
2 cups wheat flour
2.5 cups of organic white flour
Bake the bread in a preheated 300 degree oven for one hour.
Let the bread cool completely, then cut into cubes.
16 oz bag of white chocolate chips
1 cup cream (whipping cream is fine, unwhipped)
1 cup milk (skim works fine)
1 tsp of vanilla
dash of salt
1 cup organic evaporated cane juice, sugar, or splenda
Mix the bread and white chocolate.
Whip the remaining ingredients in a bowl, then pour over the bread mixture. Coat all the bread with the wet ingredients.
Spray crock pot with nonstick cooking spray.
Pour entire mixture into crock pot. Dot with butter or subtitute.
Put the crock pot on low setting for 3 hours.
Do not open top.
At end of three hours, put on high for thirty minutes to completely set.
Let cool for about ten minutes before serving.
Can serve alone or add toppings of caramel, whipped cream, etc.
DIVINE! The original recipe said it was 550 calories per serving...I estimated, using all substitutions it was about 350 per serving...I had half a serving and it was plenty good.
I recently made a sh*tload of cufflinks for a friend's wedding.
They were awsum...if I say so myself.
I have played with the idea of making jewelry as a side hustle for sometime, but the small parts on women's jewelry made it hard to work on with my two year old playing nearby, distracting me, and causing me to overbend many a 14k jump ring.
So, I just kinda made little stuff for friends, here and there.
But then these cufflinks came out so kick azz...so I am going to try my hand at making and selling them on Etsy.
I am claiming that it will be successful...and prosperous.
What is your hidden (or not so hidden) talent????????
I am potty training my two year old...attempting to anyway.
He is resistent sometimes, sometimes not.
One minute he will announce, I gotta go pee.
The next minute he will sneak off to his hiding spot and go #2 in his pull-up.
Then the very next minute he will profess...I gotta go potty.
THANKS ALOT BUDDY!
Can anyone share their tricks or just good old fashioned advice for potty training a boy...
A great pair of hoops can take your t-shirt , jeans, and flats to perfection with a great bag and shiny healthy hair.
It's all you need to look great!
My husband and my son like to be fashion forward too...so here are some things on their wishlists.
Anything special you know your child or husband would like?
Using just ONE sentence, describe your family the best you can!
Do you have to wear a suit to work everday, are you in scrubs, or do you have a business causal workplace? Are you classic, trendy, or a mix of whatever you feel?
Some of the items have been significantly reduced, however, I am broke...but maybe you aren't! Here are some of my faves: